26 May Collecting Memories
We live in a highly materialistic society. People will work themselves right into the ground just so that they can have the latest iPhone, the newest car, or the biggest house. And who knows why we do it. Maybe it’s to impress other people. Or perhaps we do it because society tells us we can’t be happy without these things. To be honest with you, it’s probably a combination of both of these things. We want to be liked and we want to be happy, but we’re not going to get either of those things by working ourselves to death. The individuals in your life, who matter, will stick around because of who you are as a person. They won’t care about the material goods that you possess. And you can bet that getting all of that stuff isn’t going to make you any happier. Creating memories with the people that matter will help to bring you some joy, however.
For one of my friend’s birthday this year, one of her other friends created a video for her. This girl asked a bunch of my friend’s friends, including me, to video tape ourselves saying one of our favorite memories that we had with her. Now, I absolutely hate being in front of the camera, but I put that aside because I wanted to be a part of something special for my friend. The only problem was that I had experienced so many wonderful memories with her that I couldn’t decide which one I was going to record. In the entire time that I’ve known her, I can’t think of a single time when we were together and I didn’t have a great time. She’s such a bright soul that radiates warmness and cheer that it would be impossible for me not to enjoy myself when I’m around her. Anyway, I ended up picking a memory from early on in our friendship. It was during the first time that we went to Las Vegas together. A couple of mildly sketchy things happened, but having her there with me when they happened made them amusing and memorable. It’s been nearly five years since that trip, and I still remember those details as vividly as the day that they happened, and I’m sure they’ll stay just as fresh in my mind for many years to come. The memories I made with her and the rest of my friends were what made that trip unforgettable, not any of the things that I got while I was there. In fact, I couldn’t tell you what I bought during that time even if I wanted to. I just don’t remember because that was important, but spending time with people I love was.
Positive thinker, remember what’s truly important in life. Sure your material possessions are nice to have around. And depending on what they are they probably will actually make your life a little bit easier, but there’s no need to spend all of your time stressing about trying to get the best and most expensive version of it. And if you really think about it, all of that pressure that you put on yourself to get it isn’t worth the trouble anyway. Yes, you have something new and shiny that you can use, but did it really make you any happier? What about the possessions that you worked hard to get in the past? Do you still use them? Are they still as important to you as they were back then when you first got them? Chances are they’re not. If you haven’t already thrown it out or given it away then it’s probably sitting in your home somewhere gathering dust. And all of that money that you used to get it could’ve been spent on going out somewhere with someone you care about and creating new memories that would’ve been much more valuable and that you could still be holding onto to this day.
Now, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t go out and by stuff. I’d definitely be a hypocrite if I said that. What I am saying, however, is that you should make sure that getting stuff isn’t all that you concern yourself with throughout your life. Your belongings will break down and become less valued as the days march on, but the memories you make with the people you love can stay with you a lifetime!