02 Dec Fear
Have you ever wanted something really bad? Now I’m not talking about really wanting the latest version of the iphone or the newest pair of Jordans. What I’m talking about is a desire for something so big and so deep that if you got it it would change your life forever. If you haven’t thought about something entering into your life that’s that life altering then try thinking about it now. What would it be? How do you feel when you think about it? Excited? Overjoyed? Maybe even a little bit afraid?
Excitement is to be expected whenever you think about a big happy something happening to you, but why is it that when we think about doing things that we really want to do that fear also seems to accompany it sometimes? It would be a lot simpler if when we felt excited about something big happening that we only felt that excitement and not the fear too.
And where does that fear come from? Are you afraid of being happy? Do you think that you don’t deserve to have this thing that you really want? If that’s the case, then let me tell you that you do deserve happiness positive thinker. You shouldn’t feel afraid of receiving happiness because happiness is something that you’re entitled to just for the mere fact that you have air in your lungs and a heart beat in your chest.
Or maybe if you’re not afraid of being happy then you may be afraid of the journey towards happiness. The end goal doesn’t scare you, but the path that you need to take in order to reach the end is what scares you. You’re not sure of what you’re going to experience on that path and that’s a scary feeling. Uncertainty is scary. Your path may be so smooth that you don’t experience any rough roads along the way, but that scenario isn’t what leaves you feeling afraid. The rough path with rocks and bumps and dips and sharp curves is the one that’s scary.
If the journey is what’s scaring you positive thinker then try not to focus on that rough road. Focus on the smooth one. When you expect for the road ahead to be a rough one, chances are that you’re going to have a tough journey ahead of you. On the other hand, if you expect for the journey to be smooth then you’re less likely to experience that bumpy path. Don’t expect for bad things to happen positive thinker. Expect for good things to happen, but still prepare yourself for any possible rough patches that you may experience. If you are focusing on an easy journey and you actually start to experience that easy journey that you’ve been expecting then any minor bump that may occur on your path won’t seem too bad because most of your journey was smooth sailing to start with.
And if you can’t seem to get that rough road out of your head then try answering this question…
How often is the fear of the experience that you built up in your head scarier than what you actually experience in real life? Most of the times we concoct a scenario in our head that’s so terrifying that we don’t want to do whatever that scary thing is. But, when we experience that thing that we have been so afraid of, we usually end up only experiencing a fraction of the pain that we imagined in our minds. So, next time you feel afraid of something, make a point to remember one of those moments when you were afraid of doing something only to have it end up not being as scary as you had imagined it to be. Use that moment to push through this new fear. Use it to remind yourself that whatever you’re going to experience is not nearly as scary as you’re making it out to be.
In life, sometimes the fear that you experience on your journey will seem like it’s just so overwhelming that not even the potential excitement of experiencing that end event seems like enough for you to want to take the plunge, but I urge you positive thinker to take that plunge. Put yourself in the moment of receiving that thing that you really want. If you can feel the happiness radiating throughout your body just by thinking about that moment then wouldn’t you want to do anything to experience that elation in real life, even if it means you have to push through some fear to get there? Fear gets in our way all of the time. It would be nice if we never had to deal with it, but we do, so the best thing that we can do when we’re faced with fear is to look it in the face and push it out of our way because whatever lies on the other side of the monster is going to be worth it.
Fear is a bully, but don’t let it beat you down. Step up and face it, and you’ll be surprised what you’ll find behind your defeated foe.
Positive thinkers, whenever you come face to face with fear just remember this simple quote to get you through it, “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”
Let this be your motivation. Let it help you to achieve what you want to achieve out of life!