Finding Happiness

Finding Happiness

I’m a millennial, so there are certain millennial-esque things that I partake in. One of those activities is spending time on social media. Like I’ve said in the past, I’m young, but I’m still old enough to know what it was like to live without technology at my fingertips. That being said, now that I have access to it, I enjoy it quite a bit. I don’t keep my phone attached to my hip, but when I do have down time, I like to scroll through the newsfeeds for the various sites that I am a part of. And one of the best parts about social media (in my personal opinion) happens to be all of the memes. There are tons of clever people out there who have scoured the web to find the perfect image or gif to sum up just about any aspect of your life that you can think of. Not a day goes by when I don’t find a meme that I can relate to on a fundamental level. Most of them make me smile or laugh, but others cause me to become just a little bit sad.

One of those memes that happen to bring down my mood basically says that when we were younger, we used to think that we would be married, have a house, and a kid by the time we were 25, but that couldn’t be further from the truth right now. Whenever I come across this meme, I notice that there are always people who laugh at it, but then there are also those, like me, who feel sad about this statement. When I was younger and I pictured what my life would be like at this age, it was nothing close to the way my life is going right now. I didn’t think that I would have kids, a house, or that I would be married, but I did expect some things. I thought that at the bare minimum I would have a steady job that I liked. I also believed that I would be in a committed relationship and living on my own. But if you haven’t guessed it, none of those things have happened for me. A lot of times when I think about where I am in my life, I get the overwhelming feeling to just start crying. And then when I look at some of the accomplishments of people I interact with on social media, I really start to feel bad about myself. Some of these people are my age and they are married. They do have kids. They do own a house. And I can’t help but look at them and think about how it seems like I’m so far away from accomplishing my goals. But the thing is, if I’m ever going to move on to a place where I’m happy with myself then I can’t just continue to focus on the negative things.

Sure, I don’t have a permanent job, but the temporary job that I have at the moment could definitely help to get a permanent one after it’s over. I don’t have a significant other, but if I keep allowing myself to be open to love then one day it will come. I don’t have my own place, but at least I do have a place to live, and since I’m not paying very much to live here, I can save a little bit and one day I will be able to get a place of my own.

It’s all about perspective positive thinker. You can choose to only see the bad things in your life or you can choose to focus on the positive. It’s really easy to get into the habit of only looking at the bad things, but when you do that, you’re guaranteed to keep on having a life that you’re unhappy with. On the other hand, if you focus on the positive then you’ll start to see that your life is a lot better than you thought. I may not know you and I don’t know what you’re going through, but what I do know is that I want you to live a life that you’re happy with. You may not accomplish all of your goals right away, but you can start learning to happy with the life that you have today. It’s not going to be easy. There will definitely be days when you start feeling sorry for yourself, but if you make a conscious effort to find something good about your life each and every day that you wake up then you’ll come to find out that you have a lot in your life that you can be happy about!