Following your Heart

Following your Heart

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I have my Master’s degree in Applied Psychology in Fashion. I first stumbled upon this program when I saw a recent grad boasting about the fact that she was the first Black woman to have her degree in this subject matter. This was back in 2016. I’ve always enjoyed fashion, and since my undergraduate degree was in psychology, I thought that it would be the perfect blend for me.

Since I didn’t know too much about the program, other than the fact that it was located in London, I started out researching it. The more I learned about it, the more I felt like it would be the right move for me to make. So, I filled out an application, answered the essays, and found people to write letters of recommendation for me, and then I sent off the completed package to the school.

I was nervous because I didn’t know if my background was competitive enough to get me into the program, but when I heard that I was selected for an interview, I knew that I had what it would take. When the interview date came up, I made sure to answer the questions confidently and professionally. And that approach ended up working because it wasn’t long before I found out that I got in to the Master’s course.  

When I first got accepted into the program I was really excited. It was new, and I thought that it would be interesting to be one of the first cohorts in the program. I was also eager to learn a bunch of psychology related information as it pertained to fashion. However, that excitement started to fade once I shared my plans with some of my friends.

I thought that my friends would be happy for me as I embarked on this new journey, but I was only greeted with questioning looks when I told them what I would be doing. They didn’t understand why I would want a degree in this subject matter, and since I was looking for their validation, I was disappointed that they felt this way. And when I didn’t receive the response that I longed for, I started to question my decision. My friends have my best interest at heart, so if they weren’t thrilled for me then was this something that I really should be pursuing? As questions like this ran through my head, I also took some time to reflect about how I felt before I received their lackluster reactions. I remembered about how thrilled I was when I found out that I had been accepted. I loved that feeling, so I decided to focus on it instead of the feeling that I got when thinking about how my buddies responded. And when I did this, I realized that it didn’t matter what anyone else thought. It only mattered how I felt about my decision. A part of me knew that my friends weren’t trying to be mean and knock down my plans. They probably just wanted to make sure that I was really doing what I wanted to do. And I wanted to be a part of that program, so I needed to go and do what I thought was best for me and the future that I was envisioning for myself at that moment in time. And that’s exactly why I have the Master’s degree that I have now.

Positive thinker, there’s always going to be someone out there who discourages you from doing what you want to do, but guess what? It’s your life, not there’s. And if you want to be happy with your life then you need to live it in a way that’s going to make you happy. If you choose to follow your heart and do what you really want to do then you can’t really go wrong in life. Yes, you may not have the support from everyone that you want to have it from, but you will have it from the person that should matter the most. You! So, go out and there and follow your heart. Live in your authenticity and be happy that you’re choosing a life that you want and not a life that others want for you.