21 Dec Moving on to Better Things
When I graduated from my Master’s program I started applying to various jobs. Since my background was in research, I was looking for research based jobs in various fields to apply to. One of those fields was market research. I had never done any market research before, but I figured that I could be good at it because I was familiar with conducting both qualitative and quantitative research. There was one job in particular at this big international marketing research firm that I was interested in, so I submitted my application. And shortly after I turned it in, I heard back from them saying that they wanted to have a 10-15 minute interview with me over the phone. I was excited, so I scheduled one with them. After speaking with the recruiter he let me know that I had passed the 1st part and that next I would be required to do a few assessments. All in all, I had to finish a writing assignment and two math tests. After I finished those, the same recruiter said that he would like to schedule a Skype interview with me. I was really getting my hopes up at this point because I made it through to the third round of the process. Unfortunately (or fortunately) I didn’t make it past that round. After I got done speaking with him he said that he would pitch me to some of the teams and that if they liked me then I would interview with them. Apparently, no one liked me because I didn’t get the job, and I was devastated. I just knew that I would’ve been great there and that I would’ve really enjoyed my time working there. I thought that this place would be where I could start my career, but I was wrong.
A couple of months later I was still looking for a job when I found a temporary position as a research associate. I submitted my application to the job posting, and someone from the temp agency reached out to me and gave me more details about the job. It was the same position at that same firm that I applied to a couple of months prior, but only this time the position I was applying to wasn’t permanent. Since I needed to do something with my time, I accepted the position and started there a couple of weeks later. It didn’t take long for me to figure out that that place wasn’t for me. The work wasn’t very interesting and everyone there worked extremely long hours and seemed stressed out about approaching deadlines. This job that I had wanted so desperately a few months before I had started my temporary position was no longer all that I imagined it to be. And all of a sudden I realized that it was good that I hadn’t gotten the permanent position that I applied for first. If I had then I would’ve felt obligated to stay there because it’s considered unprofessional to jump around from job to job. So that would’ve meant that I would’ve been there for at least a couple of years. Yes I would’ve had a job, but I also know that I would’ve been miserable.
Positive thinker, there are going to be things in your life that you really want, but sometimes you won’t get them. In the beginning, you may feel crushed, but in the long run you might actually start to see you were better off not experiencing those things. When I wanted that job and I didn’t get it I was upset, but after doing a temporary position at that same company that I wanted to be a part of, I realized that I was better off not experiencing the permanent role. The same types of things will happen to you. It may not be with a job. It may be with a person that you want to date or a place that you want to visit, but whatever it is, just know that the fact that you might not get to have the experience that you want to have might be the best thing for you. So, don’t get upset when things don’t go your way. Find the reason or the lesson behind it so that you can stop dwelling on what you didn’t get to have and start moving onto bigger and better things!