11 Mar Saying No to the Negative Opinions of Others
Happy Wednesday Positive Thinkers!
Part of maintaining a positive attitude includes being able to come to a state of mind where you don’t allow the negative opinions that others have about you to affect you in a terrible way.
Positive thinker, have you ever noticed that some people are able to walk around experiencing complete happiness no matter what comes their way? Part of the secret to their happiness is probably that they have found a way to not let negativity from other people put a damper on their day.
I don’t want you to think that these people are impervious to hearing hurtful things said about them. People definitely do say negative things to them because no one is immune from having harmful opinions thrown their way. Even the smartest, prettiest, funniest, and nicest person in the world has received hurtful comments from other people. However, one of the biggest differences between these happy go-lucky people and those people that can’t seem to find happiness is that they don’t let the negative comments that other people have about them get to them.
And this is by no means an easy feat to accomplish. It takes a lot of work. Not allowing the negative opinions that other people have about you to affect you is not something that you can pick up over night, but it is definitely doable.
Don’t think it will work? Well let me ask you this…
Have you ever told a lie so much that you’ve actually started to believe it?
At first you tell a little white lie to get out of something, and then you keep telling it over and over again. The lie becomes easier and easier to tell and you may even reach a point to where ten years down the road you are only able to remember the lie and you can’t even remember what the truth is anymore.
The lie has now become your truth.
And the truth of the matter is, if you say things enough you may actually start to believe them.
So if this can happen with a lie then why not let it happen with something that will actually make you feel better.
Go ahead and try it positive thinkers! Next time you hear someone say something negative about you that makes you feel bad about yourself, try and brush it off. Tell yourself that just because someone else thinks poorly of you doesn’t mean that you have to think poorly of yourself. And don’t just say this to yourself one time. Keep repeating it to yourself for as long as you need to in order to start believing that what you’re saying is true.
Positive thinker, every time someone says some negative thing about you, you need to have a positive thing that you can readily bring to mind so that you can focus on the good within you instead of on the bad things that other people see about you. And if you’re having problems coming up with good things to focus on, try creating a list of all of the positive attributes that you have about yourself. Put an hour or two aside one night and sit down and seriously work on coming up with an accurate and exhaustive list of every single good thing about yourself that you can think of. No item is too small. If you like the way you laugh then write it down. If you like your smile, then write it down. And make sure not to only focus on your superficial characteristics. Dig down deep and think about some genuine, authentic, and meaningful characteristics that you possess too. Once you have compiled that list, make an effort to get up everyday and read off that list of positive characteristics while looking at yourself in the mirror. If you do this then you’ll be prepared if someone spews hatefulness at you.
Also, bear in mind that there is a difference between being critical and being hurtful just for the sake of being mean. Sometimes you do need to hear things that you don’t necessarily want to hear because accepting constructively critical comments will only make you a better person. If your boss tells you that your work hasn’t been up to par lately then you should probably listen to your boss and fix your work so that you can become the best you you can be at your job, but if someone walks up to you and tells you that your sense of style is atrocious then this would be one of those instances when you need to recognize that this person is just trying to be hurtful instead of critical. This is one of those moments when you should ignore that person and focus on the list of good qualities that you came up with.
Positive thinker, people are going to have bad things to say about you from now until the end of time. That’s just a part of life, but it is up to you to figure out how you’re going to handle it.
You can continue to allow other people’s negative opinions about you to make you think less of yourself or you can try to not let these kinds of comments have that kind of power over you.
Don’t give other people the power to make you feel bad about yourself. If you stop listening to their negativity, and embrace your own positive attitudes about yourself then their opinions won’t be able to affect you so easily.
Keep in mind…
Positivity starts from within.
It starts with how you view yourself.
And remember positive thinker, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt