16 Aug Taking a Compliment
There’s an English comedian that I really like called Michael McIntyre. I’ve only ever seen clips from his stand-ups while scrolling through Facebook. I’m not sure how FB started recommending his videos to me, but I’m definitely happy that they did. Whenever the fan page posts a new video I make sure to watch it, and I am never disappointed when I do. Needless to say, Facebook doesn’t put up his whole show, so I have never watched one of them in its entirety, but what I’ve seen I’ve loved. That’s why I tried to find the full version of his specials on Netflix. It has so many stand-ups on there that I was sure that I would be able to find at least one of them on there. Unfortunately, none of his stuff is up on the streaming site (at least not in America), but when I couldn’t find his comedy on there Netflix recommended other shows and stand-ups that I might’ve found interesting based upon what I was initially looking for.
Normally I don’t pay these recommendations any mind. If I’m in the mood to watch “Us,” for example, then that’s all I care about watching, and none of your second rate replacements are going to fill the void of not being able to look at what I want to see. This time, however, one of the thumbnails happened to catch my eye because it was a picture of James Corden, my favorite late night talk show host. When I looked closer, I came to find out that the show that popped up was called “Very British Problems.” Since I spent over a year of my life living in London, I decided that I would watch the show to see if I could relate to anything. I haven’t finished the entire thing yet (there are less than 10 episodes, and I’m halfway through it), but there are definitely some problems that I experience that the British do. And to be quite honest, a lot of what they talk about isn’t even specific to people in the U.K. I know there are many Americans out there who have never been to the U.K., but can still relate to these issues.
Some of the things, like getting angry when someone doesn’t give you a wave after you’ve been nice enough to let them in while you’re driving, caused me to laugh in agreement and weren’t really that big of a deal, but other things that they talked about made me actually think. One of those topics they go over is compliments. Apparently the British can’t accept compliments very well. For them, it’s protocol to refute a compliment or deflect it once one is given to you. For example, if I were to tell someone from the U.K. that they had a nice outfit on, they would respond by saying something like, “This? It’s actually rubbish. I got it from Primark for 10 quid.” They wouldn’t say thank you. They would just try to take the attention away from themselves. And while there are many Americans out there who would welcome such a compliment, I also know that there are just as many (myself included) who would react the same way the British would in this scenario. But the thing is, we all should be happy to receive a compliment.
With so much negativity in the world, we should embrace and cherish the positive when it comes around. That’s why when someone says something nice to you you should bask in it. Take that moment to realize and appreciate that you’re doing something that’s positively impacting the world around you enough for someone to tell you. You deserve to feel good for doing something right, so don’t deprive yourself of that feeling positive thinker. You might think that you’ll be viewed as too cocky if you accept the compliment, but the whole point of getting one is to accept it so that you can keep on doing the very thing that you seem to be doing so well. So the next time that you receive one make sure you take a moment to really think about and accept what has been said to you. You’re doing something well, and you should be proud of that!