20 Oct The Little Things
Siblings are great. If you’re close enough in age, they usually wind up being some of your first friends. Since they’re always around, it’s pretty easy to spend time with them, and all of that time together can actually end up blossoming into a friendship. They’re also useful when it comes to learning about different life lessons. Typically these individuals will teach you how to interact with other people. If you say the wrong thing to your brother or sister you know that it will end badly, so you know that if you say these things to other people it might not end up working out in your favor either. Likewise, if you get mad at your sibling and lash out at them physically, it’s likely to end in punishment, which is how you also discover how you should behave around new people that you encounter. They’re also good to have around because you know that they’ll have your back when things get tough, and you also know that you’d return the favor if you ever had to. And, while it can nice to be able to spend years and years living with someone that you’re close to, it can also be a pain at times.
It’s in your relationship with your siblings that you first discover what competition truly looks like. And this happens to be the case regardless of your age difference. You compete with each other for your parent’s time when you’re at home. And then when you get to school you compete with each other there. Even if you don’t actively compete against your sibling, you’re usually still aware that your actions are being compared to the actions of your brother(s) and/ or sister(s). You might even hear a teacher or coach compare you to your sib. It’s not fair because you’re your own person, but it does tend to stay with you.
I’m an adult now, but I still find myself competing against my siblings. I compare myself to them, and sometimes I judge how well my life is going based off of how well they’re doing. But the thing about comparing yourself to other people is that when you choose to do it, it doesn’t end up helping anybody out. The person you’re comparing yourself to is unbothered by it because they don’t know that you’re doing it. Ultimately, you’re the one who ends up suffering because of it. When you focus on comparing yourself to other people that you think are doing better than you, you’re only going to end up feeling worse about yourself. You’ll be too busy focusing on what they have to realize what you do have. And when you put all of your energy into being envious of those who are better off than you then you probably won’t have much time for trying to improve yourself.
And when I talk about self-improvement I don’t mean improving yourself with the sole purpose of trying to be better than somebody else. I mean improving yourself so that you can end up becoming the best you that you can be. It doesn’t matter if someone else is more successful than you, all that matters is that you’re happy with yourself. Focus on being happy with yourself. I know that it’s asking a lot, but with most things in life, you can start off small. Just begin by finding one thing about yourself that you like. Maybe it’s your smile, or the way you laugh. When you start off with something tiny like that and focus on that aspect about yourself every day, you’ll start to notice other bigger things about yourself that you can be proud of. Maybe you’re always the life of the party or perhaps you’re the person that your friends and family members can turn to whenever they need a shoulder to cry on. It doesn’t matter what your positive qualities are, all that matters is that you know what they are and that you appreciate how valuable you are because of them.
Positive thinker, life isn’t a competition. Don’t be so hard on yourself if you’re not as “far” as someone else is. Focus on your daily successes and the good qualities that you have. That’s what’s most important. Love yourself because you’re doing a better job with your life than you know!