18 Oct The Power of Positive Self-Talk
I talk to myself A LOT. This is something that I’ve always done, but I think I’ve started doing more of it as I’ve gotten older. And when I do it, it doesn’t matter where I am either. Sometimes I’m alone in my room, and other times I’m out in public. There are even times that I do it so much that I have to make sure that I’m not speaking out loud or moving my lips to the dialogue that’s going on in my head. You see, I’m comfortable with this little habit that I have, but I’m not THAT comfortable where I would feel okay with people seeing me moving my lips without anyone around. I got caught doing it once or twice in my younger days, and it’s not something I want to be caught doing again anytime soon. If you don’t mind it though then go for it!
I find myself talking to myself in many different occasions. I frequently engage in self-talk when I’m in a rough spot. In these moments, I have to be my own biggest cheerleader. I have to tell myself that it’ll be okay and that I can get through whatever I’m trying to get through in that moment. Doing this is particularly important when no one else is around to give me the pep talk that I need or when I don’t feel enough at ease to reveal my issue to somebody that could give me the encouragement that I need. During these instances, I might not have very many people that I can turn to, but I do know that I’m able to count on me.
There are people out there who turn their noses up at people who engage in self-talk, but it’s something that we all should do. No one out there knows you better than you know yourself, so in your trickiest moments, the best person for you to turn to is yourself. Yes, it’s always going to be nice to get advice from someone else, but at the end of the day you’re the one that’s going to be making the decision about how best to move on from this rocky place, so you have to make sure that it’s something that you actually want. And sometimes, the best way for you to figure this out, is by turning inward and listening to what you have to say to yourself.
Self-talk is great when you’re facing a dilemma, but it’s also really great to use in the good times too. Let’s say you’ve just accomplished something that you been working really hard to achieve. Congratulations from other people are amazing to receive, but so is a compliment from you. Something as simple as, “well done,” “you go girl/boy,” or “you really deserve this” can go a long way. It’s something that I do for myself whenever I do anything that I’m proud of, and I encourage you to do the same.
Now, even though I’ve spent the last few paragraphs talking about how self-talk can be positive, I’m sure that you know that it can also be negative. We can be our biggest advocates, but sometimes we can also be our biggest enemies. It’s easy to fall into a trap where you find yourself talking down to yourself. And you shouldn’t be bringing yourself down. You should be bringing yourself up! You probably don’t make a habit of saying many negative things to the people in your life that you care about, so you shouldn’t make a habit of saying bad things to yourself either. And the best way to make sure that you’re doing this is to be aware of your thoughts. If you ever feel yourself speaking negatively about yourself, take the time to acknowledge that thought and let it pass away. And then once it’s out of your system, you can try redirecting your thoughts to something that’s more positive and uplifting.
Positive thinker, don’t be afraid of a little self-talk. Learning how to talk positively to yourself can help you to live a life that you’re happier with living. And learning how to stray away from the negative self-talk can make your life better for you as well!